Reg Killingley - Being Positive

Reg Killingley, reflecting on methods to improve student behavior, focuses on a current approach called PBIS (Positive Behavioral Intervention and Support), an approach that makes student expectations very clear. Teachers and administrators are encouraged to commend students when they have achieved these expectations. This approach calls for a 4 to 1 ratio—4 parts praise to 1 part correction in dealing with student behavior. It would be well if parents would use this formula in child rearing. As we expect more from our children or students, the more they will rise to the occasion and perform to those expectations. If we would do more praising rather than criticizing, our offspring could achieve more of their goals, skills, gifts and life’s calling. God the Father and Jesus Christ used positive words to create and encourage. We should praise our children in front of others, encouraging them to success, praying for them daily, encouraging them to read books and articles. We should not focus on the negative, feeling it is our duty to find fault with others, but respect and encourage one another. When we make decisions about anything (job, marriage, etc.), we should not be motivated by negative factors, but overwhelmingly positive factors. In brainstorming sessions, negative responses will squelch any productivity or creativity. We need to have the outlook of Barnabas, seeing the positive potential of people. We should not rejoice in turmoil or strife, longing for the horrendous Day of the Lord, fasting for strife rather than positive results. The Gospel means good news, not perdition. The summation of the Law is positive—loving God and loving mankind. If we respect people, we will not hate them, but love them, treating them as beings created in God’s image. Our entire orientation should be positive rather than negative, realizing that nothing can separate us from the love of God.

Acts 15:36 * Amos 5:18 * Barnabas (son of encouragement) * Brainstorming * Breakpoint * Chuck Colson and John Stonestreet - BreakPoint Christian Radio * Corporal punishment * Create * Dads as volunteers * Disagreements * Disagreeing without being negative * Decisions * Discernment * Ephesians 3:20 * Fasting for positive results * Fasting in negativity * Fear motivation * I Thessalonians * Giving another chance * Gospel * Hebrews 4:12 * Isaiah 58 * John Mark * John1:1 * Matthew 5:44-46; 18; 28 * Motivation of fear * Negativity * “No” * Oscar awards * Pareto rule * PBIS * Philippians 1:6-15 * Positive Power of words * Preaching Christ from the ‘wrong’ motive * Proverbs 23:7 * Psalm 119:105 * Public schools * Pygmalion effect * Romans 8:28-31 * II Corinthians 1:3-20 * Student behavior * Terrible twos * Why did you become a Christian? * World changes * Yelling