Dave Havir - Bad Childhood, Good Life

Dave Havir, insisting that people can thrive in their lives despite having unhappy childhoods, provides some scriptural strategies of coping with the effects of an unhappy childhood. Many of the insights were derived from Dr. Laura Schlessinger’s recent book, Bad Child, Good Life. If we are overtaken in a fault, not everyone has the qualifications to help. Likewise, if we see another person overtaken in a fault, we must be honest in evaluating our qualifications to help. Compulsive behavior is not easy to control or direct into constructive uses, but God has promised to look out for us. As times get tougher, we need to learn to look out for one another. After we have validated people, maybe allowing some people to vent, we need to help them get beyond their self-pity and victimhood. Going over past hurts continually (over and over) reinforces the victimhood mentality and the desire to hold grudges. Self-imposed labels trap us in a repressive identity, serving as triggers for recurring negative behaviors. We should not seek closure, but resilience, motivated to make things better.

Acceptance * Addictions * Apology * Attitude * A look in the mirror * Alcohol * Bad Childhood, Good Life * Bad habits * Closure * Compulsive behavior * Confrontation * Courage * Denial * Disappointment of today * Drugs * Emotional pain * Enduring the pain * Galatians 6:1 * Hobbies * How to Blossom and Thrive in Spite of an Unhappy Childhood * Identity * Inner noise of pain * Inward-focused * Laura Schlessinger * Letting people vent * Looking out for others * Loving-kindness * Optimism * Pain of yesterday * Perspectives * Psalm 27:1-10 * Pressure to be sick * Promiscuity * Psychological lava * Rage * Reach out * Replacing bad habits * Repressed memories * Repressive memories * Revenge * Resilience * Restoring someone taken in a fault * Rewards * Routine * Self-focus * Self-pity * Spirituality * Victimhood * Work